Going solo

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The book cafe!

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Classic apple pie ($4.95) and a mocha brew ($5. 65)

Went on several mini adventures over the past few days just to spend some time alone. At first, the idea of visiting cafes alone seemed like a crazy thing to do since many usually go  in a group or at least with a friend or two.
Yet the few hours spent at the book cafe were therapeutic and relaxing to a point that I could stay there alone for the whole day. They had a great selection of jazzy, blues kinda music and the cafe’s book themed surely catches one’s eye. The books there are free for browsing and I would say it’s a simple and quiet place to catch up on your favourite reads or just have a meet up with one or two pals. Not only do the staff really make you feel at home (they helped me shift a table to the sofa seat I had, they served with a smile :-))
Their pastries and drinks are quite reasonable, won’t say it’s cheap but for around $12 per person you can have a pretty good dessert and a wide range of coffee or tea to choose from.
Definitely a place to visit again maybe with others in the future!

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At t2 to send Isaac off!

Sent Isaac off today for his jcc in Brunei and seeing this buddy go one step closer to fulfilling his dreams of becoming a pilot really made me wonder about dreams of my own. To be very honest I don’t really have a very solid goal or one fixed dream to attain, unlike many.  Cause for me there are more to just the end product of say being a famous writer, producer, director or presenter one day. There are definitely more fulfilling things than just achieving that objective and today led me on to think of the steps I have to take to move closer to turning those thoughts into reality. Certainly something which is easier said than done but right now it’s been difficult finding breakthroughs and new breakdowns in these areas, which has given my mind sort of something like a mental block :/ let’s hope it fizzles out soon.
Till then!
Darren.

4 Steps when facing a really huge setback.

Life is full of setbacks whether you like it or not. At times, unfortunate events occur when we least expect it leaving us broken and drives out our sanity. It could be a failed relationship, where the love isn’t mutual or a physical injury when a person needs his body to be at its fittest. Sometimes, it is the smallest of personal matters that may eventually amount to something gargantuan. Like how a pitcher launches a fast ball, we can never claim to be ever ready in handling setbacks that bolt out from nowhere. After all, we are just humans.

As a nineteen year old who has not step into the adult world, it will be bigotry to say that I’ve overcome the toughest of setbacks in my life for there’re still plenty untold stories and tons of setbacks yet to be conquered. But I can confidently say that these 4 steps helped me climb back up after falling into a pit.

1)      Accept it.

Sadly, the first step is probably the hardest step. Sometimes it may become hard to believe how horrible life is. Everything seems like scenes in a movie and you want to believe all is but a nightmare in a horror flick. Numerous people give up and because of that, never stood a chance in overcoming their failures. However, you can’t run away, not now. Find a friend, someone you can really trust. Confide in him/her and hear what he/she has to say. They may not know everything, but at least you get to hear things from another perspective and someone other than yourself who can convince you to accept whatever that has happened. Without accepting what has happened, you will never be healed 100% and this will hinder your ability to become stronger in handling future catastrophes.

2)      Let Things Go.

The past is the past, there’s no point in harping on whatever that has happened. You’ve got to put down any old baggage and learn to forget the things which have hurt you. While accepting is difficult, this step usually takes the longest. Once in a while, you might come across pictures or messages which may remind you of the past. Initially, there is a chance where you start feeling all depressed again but as time passes, learn to chuck them aside whenever you see it. Stop placing any importance with those items and if you really need to, why not put them in the bin? Be patient and let time do its work.

3) Find a New Purpose.

Everything happens for a reason. Look out for any plausible universal signs for why something happened in your life and search for that new goal. There could be something greater in store for you so let it go already and start finding the new direction in which you were meant to head for. To take on something new is challenging but it serves not only as a distraction to get over the incident but also helps you explore things which you may have never considered looking into had this unexpected event not occur. There are always silver linings amidst the grey clouds.

4) Move on.

Upon setting yourself with a new path, drop everything of the past. This is a novel start. Whatever painful story you had in the past is over and it’s now time for you to re-write that horrible incident with something more amazing. Something which only can be done by no one else, but you.

A setback will only be seen as insurmountable unless you begin perceiving it as a challenge and stand up to annihilate it. No doubt sometimes, no matter how hard you try things may not seem to get any better. All your efforts might have wrung you dry, but never cease to believe that with time and staying positive, eventually you can escape any hell hole. With this new armoury, stop lying down and whining of how life’s unfair towards you. Pick yourself up today and be fearless in your conquest in defeating anything that stands in your way. Remember, it’s never too late to tell yourself that you’ve had enough and it’s time to move on!13937775141565615938

What I’ve been up to!

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The week where mum finally agreed to let me take public transport just in time to support this superstar! 🏆

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And of course couldn’t ask for a better group to return for a day of match support. Became a student again HAHA

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Had a ridiculously fun outing with the cousins but sadly I played no part in the hilarious dance central games. 😦 totally would have rocked it.

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Day out with rou where we decided to go for match support as students HAHA. Thanks friends for a lot of things you have done through the really dark periods during the start of the year. 🙂

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HAHA epic day after finding a buddy who too didn’t watch x men, thought I was the only one left! Did lots of retarded things in Cathay that day and going back to school that day only to be called a girl by the security guard 🙎like what the!! HAHA but still memorable day 🙂

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Master chef in me couldn’t help it!!! Too long since I last whipped something up. Teriyaki marinated jap chae noodles!

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Solo walk (in the bright light of the terribly hot sun to east coast. Had a good moment to ruminate about life and listened in with expert ninja skills on a father and son conversation. Check my insta for what was the conversation exactly about! Something worth reading!)

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And finally today, quick morning workout and meetup with puah before she leaves for HK tmr (stay safe and have fun!!!) Then rushing back to fetch sis to her party LOL, followed a brave solo venture to chock full of beans. Felt as though I was getting judged visiting a cafe alone. Don’t be fooled by the nice pic though, the coffee tasted really ordinary and sitting outside with no a/c was a disaster 😦 swamped with mosquitoes and it was so 🔥🔥🔥

That has been almost everything done in the last two weeks! Wow long post HAHA, to make up for the inactivity of late. Bye for now!

Community.

Life has hit a new level of monotone not because there isn’t anything to do, cause honestly I have many things to keep myself occupied with. That being said though, it’s wonderful to have found people whom you know you can confide in during times of distress. (you know who you guys are thanks so much for being there)But friends are friends, and when not all are in unison, the community will cease to exist. It has been a while since this small part of a particular community died in me and that community having been a main character in my life for a long time has left life a little more than fuzzy. Fuzzy and confused as to what now?
Is there a way to get this community back to how it was a few years ago, now?
Like how stories are plotless without a main character, life is pointless without a sense of community.

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Treasure the good times while it lasts don’t live to regret anything. Really love this picture a lot cause everyone’s so happy and carefree. No baggages or what nots, just 13 free-spirited adventurous souls ready to conquer the world. ❤ #tbt